A Missing Element - Feeling

Back overseas again. Sadly I wasn't able to do what I had planned during CNY. But I suppose it is for the better. A Week after Barentyne's, I was recently engaged in two separate conversations which drifted into the topic of relationships.

A Heart Made Whole (Mine needs a thread-and-needle set)

In the first, I happened to list out to a friend various important elements which are present in a positively-progressive relationship. Commitment. Trust. Patience. Consistent proximity. Shared Values. Some planning. Then she'd happened to point out one element I had missed out. I was surprised that I had missed out the Feeling.

To which in my second conversation with another friend, all the elements fell into place. First impressions are important as far as making your own introduction is concerned. However, the Feeling is like a spark of a potential relationship. Without feeling, even if his/her introduction was cordial, the relationship would only grow to be simply another branch of your networking. When two individuals mutually have the Feeling, this would then only lead into the other elements of trust due to such mutual attraction. Then, only after that one can practice consistent proximity, patience, commitment & the like.

The outcome of the second conversation ended with my other friend recommending me to write a "Simple guide to Relationships" for being able to construct such detailed thought like a flowchart. That way many single newbies won't need to fret anymore over hesitation or to be simply overcome by infatuation over a desired target.

But, Nah... The irony of even writing such a book, when I myself am not even close to benefit from the fruits of my consistent practicing of what I preach. That which I had not done continues to haunt me often when my thoughts are free. I guess lacking the Feeling element was the prime cause for that failure. Yet, I persist in seeking solace in a most unorthodox way.

Rantings aside, I only can wonder: If the Feeling does come late, would fortune ever smile once more on the repentant procrastinator?